"The best advocate for any patient is the patient herself." When it comes to health care, a woman's most important relationship is often with her obstetrician-gynecologist. Every time you meet with your doctor, you both should share a lot of information – about how you feel, what your options are and what needs to be done to help you feel better.

Talking, listening, communicating. The heart of a good relationship with your doctor is being able to talk comfortably and to understand one another. Never forget that you're a partner in your care. You have a right to clear information from your doctor about your condition and proposed treatment. If you don't understand the terminology or what the doctor is saying, ask questions.

Make each visit count. When you meet with your Ob/Gyn, make a list of the things you want to talk about before you go – including your symptoms, when they started and what you've done to try to feel better. Do some research online or at the library about your condition and concerns. If you have more than one health issue, talk about the most important ones first. If you're taking any medicines, add them to your list or bring the original bottles with you.

If you have a hard time remembering what the doctor says when you meet, take careful notes or ask a friend to come with you to listen. If you feel afraid or embarrassed during your visit, let your doctor know. Don't let these feelings keep you from telling the doctor about a symptom or problem that's bothering you.

If you have doubts about the doctor's diagnosis or treatment plan, speak up. There may be other treatments that will work as well. You can always ask your doctor to consult with a specialist or you can get a second opinion on your own.

To find a Board Certified Ob/Gyn, link to the American Board of Medical Specialties ABMS – American Board of Medical Specialties